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Dragonfly

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Do you think its fair for the court system to automatically decide a 50/50% custody arrangement no matter what the reason for divorce or split was?


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I don't think so and that's not how it works here in Fl. Although the norm is shared custody, that doesn't mean 50/50. There is the primary resident and the holidays are split according to a court schedule and the secondary resident gets every other weekend and phone calls. 

If there is cause the courts will change the custody to sole custody for one parent. 
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Not at all. I have never heard of a court that didn't base custody arrangements around the best interest of the child and just gave out automatic rulings. That is really strange. 

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everything in california is NO FAULT so unless i can prove him unfit my ex got 50% custody on 7 dys with me then 7 days with him. that is NOT good for kids., kids need structure and routine.  there were some other issues i brought up to the mediator and the attorneys brought up to the judge as well its in my deposition. today i tood bella for her add eval and met with the psychologist as she asked more and more questions she agreed bella had anger management issues.  then she got into all the stuff that surrounded the divorce the spousal abuse and what not bella saw more than i thot she did damnit.  anyhow the dr is now reporting my ex to the child protective services.  its about time someone listened to my kid besides me!!!! i find it disgusting that a mediator whos only job is a childs best interest ignored what i said. 


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I hope it all gets sorted out in your favour Dragonfly, you are a wonderful mum and your kids feel safe and happy with you and adore you. It should be all about the kids, i am surprised by your justice system i must say.
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It's all in my favor already FS ty xoxo I just get frustrated as things still happen that ruffle my wings and tossel my fur. It's incredibly unfortunate for the waynes, they have been thru much and stability is my main priority. My ex does things that activate angry momma bear mode.
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It's all in my favor already FS ty xoxo I just get frustrated as things still happen that ruffle my wings and tossel my fur. It's incredibly unfortunate for the waynes, they have been thru much and stability is my main priority. My ex does things that activate angry momma bear mode.
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*HUGS* DF
I don't blame you for being angry. I hope you are able to convince the courts what is in your kids best interest.

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Originally Posted by Dragonfly
It's all in my favor already


I think men just dont get it.  I think that they think they bond with their children and they love them and yadda yadda but they dont get it anymore than I can get it because I havent given birth and neither have they.

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